In children’s life the most important thing is healthy family relationship. That is a base of the wellbeing and children’s overall mental health. Nothing else can replace loving and caring family. Unfortunately it is not always easy to build strong family relationship. That means putting families’ needs as a priority, even when there are other obligations and there is not always plenty of time to dedicate to family. If you want your children to grow up as strong personalities and good, loving people, make sure you do your best to build healthy family relationship.
There are two main dimensions that have important effects on strong family relationship – caring and warm communication and limits of children’s behavior. Parents must find balance between them and dedicate time to make sure they are engaging both of them. Of course, both of these dimensions include many blocks that must be taken into a consideration.
First block is overall communication. Dedicate time to communicate with your family members. Even if they are telling something that doesn’t seem too important, you must listen. That is the only way how to make sure your family members will talk about everything. Honesty and openness is the very base, so make sure you are not forgetting about daily communication.
Next block is togetherness. That means spending time together. This is usually a challenge for most of the parents. Although they consider family as their priority, when it comes to spending time together, work and other obligations suddenly turn out to be more important. Of course parents must work to financially support their children, but it must be remembered that money alone won’t give your children well childhood. You must also invest some of your time.
Affection is also important. Those can be words, hugs or kisses, but your family members must know that you love them. That is especially important for small children, because it obviously and clearly shows how important they are.
Acceptance is what really can help in strong relationship building. Show all your family members that you understand them and that you accept their choices even if you are in different thoughts. That is really hard, because parents what to protect their children and don’t want them to make any mistakes, but you must let them make their own decisions and accept them. You can tell your opinion but if that is not changing family members mind then just accept.
And the last block is commitment. Remember that you are responsible for your family members and you must do anything to make sure they have everything they need. You can’t just forget something or refrain from something and after that act like everything is fine.
So basically it is all about mutual understanding and trust, but it won’t magically appear by itself. You must work for it hard. You must earn your family members trust and show them that you will always be there for them. Your family must be a priority also practically, not only theoretically.